I have now done the Ongoing Group for 4 years and attended some workshops with Peter Bernhardt. What can I say about what it has done to me and what it is doing to me? First of all, I see it as a great support for my marriage. When we get into an argument we turn to subgroups. At first everything in me says I don't want that, but I force myself to go against that reluctance. The result is: within 15 minutes, the argument has completely evaporated and love flows again between us without any of us feeling like we have lost out. In addition, I now see my children very regularly and the meeting is open and free. After the death of their mother, there was a very difficult period in which they did not want to see me at one point. I am convinced that by practicing SCT I have changed so much that they now enjoy interacting with me. They confirm that themselves now. In short SCT has given me a lot, which is why I continue it, because I am curious to see what else it can bring.

Olaf van Kooten
Wageningen University & Research professor